Friendship

  According to the dictionary, friendship is a form of interpersonal relationship generally considered to be closer than association, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and associations. But that is a very formal expression of what is friendship. The best descriptions of friendship are written by famous writers. And in those descriptions they can trigger varyous feelings for the reader.
  Firstly, my favourite quote is written by Menander which says: "If you never tell your secrets to your friend, you will never fear him when he becomes your enemy." This reminds me of a famous saying:"Keep your friends close but enemies closer". This saying has a lot of truth in it, because people can manipulate others when they know their weak spot. And none other than a secret is the most vulnerable place of a human. If said to another person, secret creates a certain button to push, which can help manipulate the teller of the secret.
  Secondly, other famous saying by Zeno says that "A friend is another I". Which may be true, may be false for some people, it's a matter of interpretation. When you have a friend which shares your hobbies, interests, the same mentality and point of view he is truelly an another YOU. When a certain problem occurs, this kind of friend is first to got and talk to. The reason for that is, that he will certainly understand you and will certainly help you, because he will understand the situation the same way as you do.
  Finally, all the sayings are true, but this particular one, which was written by Lord Chesterfield, which says:"Most people enjoy the inferiority of their best friends" I found a liittle bit contradictional. The first reason for that is, if someone thinks that his best friend is more inferior than him, that person can't be his best friend. It's more like a duke's and servant's relationship: again, as said in the first paragraph, this inferiority creates a loophole on this friend, which gives an opportunity to make use of him, and best friends certainly don't do that. Moreover, if someone is more inferior than you, you must ignore it and try to help your friend overcome this problem.
  To sum evertything up, friendship is a very abstract word. It can be used in all kinds of contexts but at the end it still turns out that relationship is a certainain bond between two objects, most likely people. And this bond can't become a bridge which helps you to manipulate other person. It has to be a bridge wich leads to happiness.


Peace.